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Tuesday, 3 October 2017

Learning to Share


I have been horrible at sharing for my entire life.  I can distinctly remember being six years old and asking my mom to make my friends leave because I was tired of sharing my toys with them.  Don’t I sound fun? 

Mystic thinks I'm cool (if I have cookies)


 


So obviously I am an obnoxious weirdo about sharing my horses.   Coach D has ridden Apollo and Mystic.  SP, who started Mystic, rode her and a few of her working students did too.  Last spring my friend M rode Apollo and Henry.  RK rode Henry and Apollo in training.  And that’s about it for the past five years.  I was planning to have Apollo be my husband’s trail horse but we all know how that went.

 
Proof I'm not a total A-hole









I have a good friend at work who had to put her horse down last fall.  She half-heartedly horse shopped at the beginning of the summer but nothing really grabbed her.  I’m not sure if she wasn’t quite ready or the right horse didn’t show up.  I found a lease situation through another horsey friend that she will likely be going ahead with soon, but in the meantime I have offered her to ride Mystic a few days a week.

 





It took me a long time to decide I was ok with that.   Mystic is my best horse at the moment (and by that I mean most quiet and useful, plus she has a saddle that fits) and I kind of want to be greedy and keep her to myself.  But honestly she is a bit tubby and now that the days are getting shorter, there are only so many days I can ride (mostly weekends).  The extra rides would help manage her weight and it’s probably good to have someone ride her besides me once in a while.


Sharing these views

 



Sharing Mystic will likely be a short-term thing (unless the lease doesn’t pan out) but I think it will be good thing.  I’m not planning to sign a contract or asking for any money, unless it becomes a bit more long term.   My friend C will likely be around (she lives on the property) or will ride with Mystic’s new occasional friend, and will report back to me if they’re having any trouble. 




 


Any thoughts for me about horse sharing?  Does this mean I’m a mature adult?  :P

16 comments:

  1. I'm horrible at sharing my horses! Food! I'm actually an amazing food sharer. But sharing anything else is hard for me. Thoughts, feelings, problems, it will be used against me.

    That is nice of you to share. Just always put mystic first. If your unhappy, feel she's unhappy say something. But it can be a good thing too! Gives M broader experiences and skill set.

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    1. I think I might even be a worse food sharer hahah! I think it could really work out to be a win-win situation but I will definitely be very in the loop of how they do when I'm not there.

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  2. I'm not the best at sharing, either.
    B was recently 'borrowed' only borderline with my permission (ie not on the days or time I agreed to), and I'm disproportionately angry with everyone about the whole thing, like now I want to set fire to some bridges and move B home LOL
    Thank being said, I'm happy with my decision to let favorite working student ride her...she's awesome, totally respectful of my own goals and schedule, and helps me keep Bridget exercised on the days I can't.

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    1. Oh man that would make me mad! Some people are so chill about sharing their horses and I am so never going to be that person. I have worked my ass off to afford these horses so I'm not just going to hand the reins over to anyone. Sounds like your deal with the working student is a good one though :)

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  3. I've gotten better at sharing since I've had so many people graciously share with me. Also my aim is to have my horses be good citizens that I can sell so having all sorts climb aboard and then observing helps me see how they are coming along.

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    1. I think I was a bit bitter because when Apollo was lame and my young horses weren't broke yet I didn't get a lot of ride offers, but when I had all my horses going under saddle everyone wanted to ride them. But really it doesn't matter, I'm happy to share with my friend from work :) I hope Mystic is a good girl for her.

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  4. I'm terrible at sharing horses too. Mostly because I think my horses are untrustworthy and less so because of said humans. Though also, if I DID share it would have to be with a capable human.
    It sounds like it will be a great thing for you and Mystic though. I hope all goes well!

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    1. I definitely wouldn't share Henry or Apollo at this point (after a very exciting summer haha). I think it will work out well, we'll see how it goes :)

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  5. It can work out really well. I enjoy having someone help me keep Irish exercised. I don't think I want to share Carmen though- because we're in active training.

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    1. Totally! That definitely makes sense about Carmen :)

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  6. Aw that's super generous of you! Sounds like a win win situation too! I'm likewise a bit terrible with sharing my toys, and even was with Isabel despite not even owning her lol.

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    1. I'm really greedy with my herd, but I can't ignore the benefits for Mystic's weight management of having an extra few rides haha :) Hopefully it all goes well.

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  7. I think it sounds like a good solution got everyone. And yes you for sound like a mature grown up now;)

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  8. Hard decision! I like them all.

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  9. I'm the opposite - I actively encourage people to ride my horse, and I love it when Trainer uses her in lessons for more advanced riders. I think it's partly because no one ever WANTED to ride Leo; having a horse that's cool enough that people ask to ride her or get excited when it's offered is still new to me, and it makes me happy that Spring gets to experience different people in the saddle (also, getting compliments about her from people that have ridden her definitely doesn't hurt :P ). Also, I can only afford to jump once a week bc I can't jump outside of lessons, so Spring getting more jumping mileage is a huge plus.

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